On Monday the 13th of November 2017, we had an assembly (led by Mrs Procter) focused on Anti-Bullying week which was 13th-17th of November.
Firstly, we learnt the motto which is: we’re all different but equal. We reflected on our own uniqueness, we are different on the inside and on the outside. Some differences are obvious, but others are not until you get to know the person. We are all individuals; all different and all equal. This should be celebrated and we all should feel safe enough to be ourselves without fear of judgement or ridicule.
Then, we learnt some statistics (some of them were quite shocking to learn):
- People who have been bullied are almost twice as likely to bully others.
- Twice as many boys as girls bully.
- 24% of those who have been bullied go on to bully.
- 20% of all young people have physically attacked somebody.
- 44% of young people who have been bullied experience depression.
- 41% of young people who have been bullied experience social anxiety.
- 33% of those being bullied have suicidal thoughts.
We were quite surprised to learn that boys are more likely to be a bully than girls.
We thought about all the different forms of bullying and know that the biggest risk our young people face today is bullying online. In school we are reminded frequently about developing our digital resilience and only posting things which we would be comfortable about saying to the person’s face.
Mrs Procter went on to talk about the kind of person a Bully there might be. There is a reason they behave in that way. BULLIES NEED HELP. THEY ARE A LITTLE BIT BROKEN
- Bullies bully because it is learned behaviour i.e. they have been bullied (when younger / by a family member, etc].
- Bullies often bully due to some stress or trauma in their life [death, parents splitting, abuse]. People respond to stress differently.
- Bullies are more likely to come from a difficult home life.
- Bullies are more likely to be insecure in themselves , their achievements and their relationships.
- Bullies often have low self-esteem and use bullying to feel some sort of control in their lives.
Statistics show that Bullies are sadly on the path to making wrong choices and leading very sad and unsuccessful lives.
- School bullies were also more likely to grow up into adult criminals.
- School bullies are more likely to have been sacked from jobs, to be in a violent relationship and to be involved in risky or illegal behaviour, such as getting drunk, taking drugs, fighting, lying and having unstable relationships as adults.
WHAT CAN YOU DO IT YOU ARE BEING BULLIED?
- Tell a friend or trusted adult.
- If online – block or unfriend (and report).
- Build your confidence – try something new, do something nice for someone, write down what you like about yourself.
- Practise being assertive
Finally Mrs Procter reminded us about our policy here at The Meadows. This makes it clear what we do when an allegation of bullying is made. The adults investigate carefully what is happening and will talk to lots of children and adults. They record everything down and make informed decisions about what will happen next. Children who are found to have bullied others, are punished according to the school behaviour policy.
Mrs Procter said though that just because a person is accused, it does not mean they have been a bully. It is highly likely that the person accused has not realised the impact of their unkind words or actions. Physical violence towards another child DOES NOT happen at The Meadows. Everyone was clear on our definition of bullying.
Thought Of The Day
During the week each class spent further time reflecting on such an important issue in their PHSE lesson. We look forward to sharing examples of their work on here.
By Immy and Lily-May